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The King who is Too Controlling Shall Lose His Kingdom

“The king who is too controlling shall lose his kingdom.” Have you ever heard this before or a version somewhat similar? It means one who is overbearing or domineering will eventually lose their power, influence, or authority – subjects and all.

I’ll explain my point through a story.

There once was a king who had a vast empire of land and riches, a powerful army, and many beloved subjects. The army and subjects were loyal, for they had always been protected and treated fair.

But over time, the king changed. His heart became hard. He became obsessed with accumulating more. More land, more wealth, more subjects, more power. With a greater accrual of possessions, influence, and sovereignty, the king’s ego began to swell. He was not the ruler he once was.

With an expansion of dominion came unexpected consequences – his unquenchable desires yielded to undesirable consequences. Change, in this case, ushered behavior modification in the form of self-seeking and egocentric cravings. His ways turned to greed and selfishness. This, in turn, made the king controlling – to the point of paranoia. He trusted no one but himself, ostracizing his closest advisors, then his family, and finally his subjects and army. Allegiance was lost by the day.

This once fair and wise ruler had lost his way. His kingdom was lost. One day, without warning, there was an uprising. The king and his family were hunted down by a rebellious mob armed with pitchforks, axes, torches, and resentment. Their rage was fueled by their own desire to live justly and be treated as such. You see, the king lost his way. And because he lost his way, he lost his head… literally. When the king became too controlling, his control led to chaos. The chaos he created led to loss.

The king is not unlike many of us. You see, often those who feel the need to control others do not have control over themselves. Think about the king and his kingdom for a minute. He had a good thing going. He was well-liked, prosperous, and reigned over many. But with the lure of greater power and wealth, he sold his soul for what he thought was greater: prominence and a place in history that would be synonymous with supremacy.

Here are several categories in which to not let your control get out of control:

  • Via other people – Listening to others who do not have your best interests at heart can lead to heartache. It’s lonely when you find yourself at the wrong end of a friendship or relationship. Don’t let others lead you down a path of futility.
  • Money – Knowing the value of something is far more worth knowing than the price of something.  Do not be fooled by thinking money will fix your problems. Money does not change us; it only shows who we really are. Use what you have wisely.
  • Your past – The past is a time gone by… time we will not get back. No matter what the past has held for you, you have to let it go to move into the future. Do not let your past control you or hold you back by chains. You control your future. Chains can be unlocked. And the future is your key to unlocking them. Focus on that.
  • Sin – For many, sin is controlling to the point where it is habitual and addictive. Let’s face it, it is more fun to sin than to do the right thing. But you have to control the sin or it controls you. That is the way it works. To control it, you control yourself. Break free from the ties that bind you. Steer clear of the temptations that impede your growth.

Take it from the king – don’t lose your head over the things you let control and consume you. You are stronger than you think you are. Beware of losing your own personal kingdom through personal control issues you may have or develop.

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