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In Relentless Pursuit

Not too long ago, I heard an interviewer ask his guests, “If there’s something you could go back in life and do differently, what would it be?”

In other words, he was saying, “What advice would you give to your younger self?”

It’s fascinating to think about what you might change in your life if you could go back in time or what one thing you might teach yourself.

What’s the one thing that you know now that you wish you knew then?

When I was growing up, I lived with my mother and brother, and we didn’t have much.

We had lots of friends who poured into us, but we didn’t have a lot in the way of material things.

For me, success was a big part of what I wanted to be.

There are two things I remember as a kid that I really wanted that I could never have.

One of them was name-brand cereal. We didn’t get it – in fact, there were two off-brands on the bottom shelf. One was resealable, which was more expensive, and one that wasn’t, so we got the least-expensive bag.

The other one was Air Jordans, which I always wanted as a kid and never could have. I got Air Jordache instead.

None of that stuff matters, though. We had love and we had family and we had fun. We just didn’t have a lot of material things.

I spent much of my life in relentless pursuit of success. I thought that’s what success was, this relentless pursuit of doing more, achieving more, accomplishing more and having more.

And as a result, there’s some really great things that have come from that and we certainly have a lot more now than we did when I was growing up.

Looking back, the thing I wish I would’ve done differently is that I would’ve spent less time being in relentless pursuit of success and spent more time in relentless pursuit of service.

I wish I would’ve spent more time relentlessly pursuing helping other people.

Thinking back, so much of the first 30 years of my life I was very focused on trying to prove to myself that I was worth it – or capable enough or smart enough.

Hopefully, I did help some people along the way.

Now, God is helping me to be not so focused on a relentless pursuit of success, but on a relentless pursuit of service.

It doesn’t matter how much money you have, or nice your house or car is, or what kind of job title you have.

Those things aren’t bad, and they can help you do a lot in the world.

But all of those things are very temporal in terms of their ability to satisfy you long term.

But when you help other people, when you make a difference in someone else’s life or when you help someone else become successful, there’s a deep, meaningful, complete, lasting joy that comes from it – and from watching somebody else succeed.

When I think about how much my family has helped me I know they get such satisfaction from it. I understand it even more now that I have my son Jasper as he learns how to eat and starts to smile and walk.

I want to encourage you to live less in relentless pursuit of success.

It’s really powerful, meaningful and significant to be in relentless pursuit of service.

So who can you serve today? Who can you help today? Who can you bring with you on your path to success?

We’d also love a chance to talk with you one on one about creating your personal goal-planning strategy, so book a free call with one of our Consultants today.

Be in relentless pursuit of service.

One Response

  1. Erik Engel says:

    Man! You knocked it out of the park for me with this one! Life fulfillment is so about serving others. And, as much as I do a ton of serving, driven by loving and serving God and people, I fall short, so I suffer senselessly. I think it’s my prideful pursuit of “success” that definitely gets in the way. Thanks for the affirmation. I also grew up poor in stuff (and spirit). I increasingly love sharing my (His!) material stuff with people in need who have little–like I did. I just did a talk with some military service members and their families about how they already have the serving spirit, and so successful reintegration is about channeling and sublimating their need to serve in the civilian sector.

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